There are many different opinions on the “right way” to do a variety of things. It’s easy to feel anxious or overwhelmed by the many sources of advice, whether it’s from well-meaning family and friends, or opinioned strangers online. Moms can feel pressure to have it all together all the time and to try to be the perfect supermom. It’s important to acknowledge that this is a stereotype and no one can truly live up to this ideal. Let go of this unattainable ideal, and embrace the messy reality of real motherhood. Happy kids get dirty and happy moms find time to take care of themselves as well as their children.

Here are a few things to keep in mind on your motherhood journey:

The to-do list will never be done.

As a mom, once you manage to check one item off your to-do list, you’ll be mentally adding a couple more. It’s important to find a system that works for you, whether it’s a small notebook that fits in your handbag, using your phone to stay organized through an app or simply emailing yourself. It’s a drain on your energy to try to remember everything, so find a convenient way to keep track of tasks. Then prioritize what really has to be done that day. Accept the fact that you’re not likely to ever complete the full list. It’s also important to allow yourself some downtime to prevent burnout.